First off: I want to apologize for not posting consistently. Jobs, money, and school are three big factors that redefine my life as of late. I literally have no time for anything else. To give you an idea: I went out with my friends last weekend…FOR THE FIRST TIME IN 3 MONTHS! I’m actually not feeling well today, so I don’t have work (and I don’t have it tomorrow, because I still have a fever.) 😛
So I cannot promise my posts will be consistent, BUT if you’ve been around since this blog site started: CONGRATULATIONS AND THANK YOU FOR THE SUPPORT!
Now, students (I’ve always wanted to say that), I want to discuss a topic that is SO controversial these days that others literally avoid it by clamming up, walking away, or crying until their hearts just can’t take it anymore.
I know, I know: love is an abstract form, love isn’t really a real thing, love is just a social construct…blah blah blah!
If you’re THAT guy, I have two words: FUCK YOU!
Love is defined as an intense feeling of deep affection or a person or thing that one loves (Merriam-Webster Dictionary).
However, what a lot of others don’t realize is that love is not as emotional as we make it. In fact, love is probably far from an emotion as we can get. Why do I say this? Because it love is an emotion, then love is one of the most wavering emotions, more so than happiness, sadness and anger.
Think about it: we say we love pizza, we say we love our parents, we say we love our boyfriend/girlfriend…is all this love the same kind of love?
NO! BECAUSE LOVE CAN HAVE SO MANY DEFINITIONS!
Love is sometimes from an emotional standpoint and can leave you with a broken heart. Love can be one of the most emotional thing for a person.
Love can leave one asking questions, frustrated, and pulling their hair out.
One thing I have learned as well: Love can leave someone conflicted for a moment.
Love is one of the most complicated human attachments ever. And yes, I said attachment, because that’s what loving someone is like.
Whether it’s a parent, friend, significant other, or whatever: LOVE IS COMPLICATED! Not because of the emotional aspect, but because your emotions and your love for someone are not intertwined. If they are, then that’s not true love; that’s just infatuation.
Now, again, this doesn’t mean that emotions cannot be manipulated with love; but usually when they are, time after time, people can pick themselves back up and say, “ENOUGH!”
One reason I made this post is due to a friend of mine. He is one of my best friends, after getting close to him very recently, and we are both for each other; no strings attached, no complicated shit, and no secrets or confusion. However, I have romantic feelings/attachment to him, and it was starting to make me wonder some different things, even after he said he didn’t feel the same way.
I have realized that one can feel the same way you do about them (in other words, loving you the same way you love them) WITHOUT the romantic attachment.
When I came to this realization, you can bet that I said, “Holy shit!” And I did.
Something clicked and life made a little bit more sense than it had before.
Love is something so intricate and complicated that one cannot in ANY way, shape or form crack the code. As much as I would love to say it’s possible, it’s not. It has so many layers and definitions.
No matter that layer, definition, or complication, the question is: Are you willing to put your heart on the line TO love someone?